Comments on: Finding Peace Amidst the Chaos http://freetobeparents.com/finding-peace-amidst-the-chaos/ Simple Sanity for Working Parents Wed, 27 Jan 2010 22:37:20 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Caroline http://freetobeparents.com/finding-peace-amidst-the-chaos/comment-page-1/#comment-143 Caroline Mon, 30 Nov 2009 10:04:47 +0000 http://freetobeparents.com/?p=532#comment-143 Hi Jason, I so hear the struggle - the comparisons, the wishing the kids were calm. And, I cracked up when you switched off by watching football: I guess it's a girl thing, but what I imagined is grown men doing more or less the same things as your kids are doing. But that made me reflect, and realise that the football game meets a host of other needs. It doesn't require mindfulness or care, and it lets you live the opposite of what you live day to day - you can sit in judgement, you can cheer and criticise without worrying about potential implications on each kid's mental health, and you get to slump and sleep and whatever is good for you. So Hurrah that you recognised your need, met it and had it give you the time and space to go back to the rule-less football game that is parenting, with the ability to recapture the glee and experimentation that is kid-dom. :) Caroline Hi Jason,
I so hear the struggle – the comparisons, the wishing the kids were calm. And, I cracked up when you switched off by watching football: I guess it’s a girl thing, but what I imagined is grown men doing more or less the same things as your kids are doing.

But that made me reflect, and realise that the football game meets a host of other needs. It doesn’t require mindfulness or care, and it lets you live the opposite of what you live day to day – you can sit in judgement, you can cheer and criticise without worrying about potential implications on each kid’s mental health, and you get to slump and sleep and whatever is good for you.

So Hurrah that you recognised your need, met it and had it give you the time and space to go back to the rule-less football game that is parenting, with the ability to recapture the glee and experimentation that is kid-dom.

:) Caroline

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