Can I Give My Kids Back
There you are, walking down the street and worrying about the thousand of things your kids need. Are they okay at school, eating enough, figuring out how to survive in this insane world?
You notice, to your left, a young, hip couple walking down the street hand-in-hand. They ooze passion as they giggle and talk in low secret voices.
What the hell happened, you think, I wish I never had kids! I wish I were traveling the world, having new adventures. I want back what that couple has.
Can I just give my kids back and start over?
As much as we’d all like to give our kids up for adoption from time to time, there is a deeper piece we miss when fantasizing about life before kids.
We can’t give our kids back, but we can create life again. So perhaps the better question is how can I have my kids and have my life be a mystery again.
Mystery. What the hell does that mean?
The mystery challenges all beliefs. You can’t script write what will happen tomorrow and be open to being surprised at the same time.
You have what it takes to let go of the fantasies (after all, it really isn’t about giving up the kids) and to still create a mind blowing reality
Imagine after his first political loss in 2000, that Michelle and Barack Obama let their dreams die and said, ”Well, we have kids now, we better just buckle down and sacrifice any more politics? It will just be easier to get the day lawyer jobs and 9-5 it until the kids are grown.”
But you’re not like the Obamas?
Well, maybe you are, at heart, and it is simply your jackal thoughts that are convincing you that you don’t have what it takes to make a difference in the world. Why not? Well, because you have kids of course.
What better way to show your kids to dream large themselves than by showing them that you don’t have to sacrifice your dreams for them? You can actually play bigger because of them.
Monday Mindfulness for When You Want to Give Your Kids Back.
*All parenting and no play makes Jane and Johnny bad parents. Take a Friday Night away from the kids and do something that lights your pants on fire. Okay, not literally.
*Don’t think you have what it takes to make a difference in the world besides working, making meals and picking the kids up from school? Notice that you’ve wrestled yourself into a corner. Get out a pen and paper and write what you’re missing. Circle one thing and go for it.
*Get some gentle and firm support to shake things up and evoke a sense of possibility and play. This could be a friend that challenges your belief or maybe a coach or spiritual guide to help you release that old habit energy.
***click here for a list of feelings and universal needs
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